Parents effect on Children

During dinner, my dad started to bring up that my mum is not a good mother and raised my sister and me badly. Of course my mum argue against this and states from what she has read that fathers has a bigger impact on children's well being than mothers do or at least she said there were more information about it fathers impact on children. I thought I should research about this cause it interested me in knowing who is correct. But honestly I am hoping to prove my mum correct cause she is the best mum in the world and I don't believe my what my father says. 

From my research fathers seem to have a bigger impact and my mum is correct in that it is so much easier to find information about fathers impact than it does on mothers. From what I have gather, fathers involvement with their children allows the them to have better verbal skills, intellectual functioning and academic achievements. The child is 43% more likely to get A's and 33% less likely to repeat grades. The child is also is more social, more confident in exploring the world around them, and become more independent. Girls have more self-esteem and boys have fewer school behaviour problems . On the government site I found these information from also states that "numerous studies have found that children who live with their fathers are more likely to have good physical and emotional health, to achieve academically, and to avoid drugs, violence, and delinquent behavior"  

I kind of got bored of trying to search for information on mothers cause none of them really answer what I wanted to know like that government website but I did find one that did talk about similar impacts that fathers have on children. 

However, I have proved my mum correct in some way and didn't really prove my dad point incorrect other than my own belief that my mum is a great mother. Also from what I found it seem that my dad has really had a negative impact on me cause I have low self-esteem, not confident, not very social, and also I didn't mention above but it is less likely for a child to experience depression if the father is more involved with their children (which i have definitely experience a few times in my life). The website also says that "research has shown that husbands who display anger, show contempt for, or who stonewall their wives (i.e., "the silent treatment") are more likely to have children who are anxious, withdrawn, or antisocial. " 

I know that it doesn't apply to everyone and there are exceptions in this world but somehow I have many of these effects on me and I can't deny it the fact that it is just me and that this is all just a coincident but no one can say it didn't effect me. 

Well, even if this is the reason I became like I am now. I am now determine to make a change. Just goes the parents have had a negative effect on you doesn't mean you can't change it and make all the bad characteristics into good ones. 

So off I go. :)

By the way if you want to see where I got the information the website is:
https://www.childwelfare.gov/pubs/usermanuals/fatherhood/chaptertwo.cfm